Fadi Zaghmout فادي زغموت

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   Devil’s Mind

   June 6, 2012

   Very good and interesting post. But there is small implicit assumption that you are making that I don’t agree with. I totally agree that responsibility is important, this is something that is always missed and you have brought it up. That is a solid point.

   The thing that I see as being missing is forgetting where the false inference starts from. It starts from demonizing the sexual instincts of the human nature, and after that follows some bad logic that puts the blame on women. While I agree that the bad logic of blaming women should to be corrected, but I think that the basic assumption of demonizing the sexual instincts is being left unquestioned. But it is the false basic assumptions are what needs more addressing than the false conclusions that are being made.

   Of course, the sexual misconduct and harassment is a serious problem that needs to be addressed. But this is looking at the symptoms of the problem not it’s cause. Sexual harassment is a problem, but it is also a symptom of a larger problem that is not being addressed, which is sexual repression.

   Both men and women are being sexually repressed. And the men are expressing their frustration with the larger problem, through sexual harassment. That is why I think that asking men to suppress their emotional frustration even more is not the best solution. It seems to intensify the problem, rather than solve it. The problem started with repression, and the solution cannot be more repression!!

   Sexual harassment, in my opinion, is misplaced frustration. It is frustration that is being perceived at an emotional subconscious level, but it’s cause is being improperly diagnosed at the conscious level. This frustration that is caused by bad cultural perceptions of the role of sex in human life, and this bad cultural perception is shifting the blame from itself and project it’s failure on human nature (calling it “sin”), and in turn the blame is shifted again onto women and their clothing as an object manifestation of the problem.

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   قاسم

   June 6, 2012

   سلام فادي..
   الأدهى و الأمر الأشخاص الذين يلومون المرأة غير المحتشمة إذا اغتصبها شخص ما بحجة أنها أثارته!! سمعت هذا الرأي قبلا و كنت على وشك الانفجار! ما هذا التفكير الضحل و السخيف؟ الغلطة دائما هي غلطة المغتصب أو المتحرش. من الطبيعي أن ينظر الإنسان إلى شخص جميل المظهر من باب الإعجاب، و لكن أن يتعداه الأمر بالنظرات المريبة و الكلمات الجارحة و أحيانا حتى اللمس فهذا ليس له عذر. أتفهم محاولة البعض مراعاة طبيعة المجتمع و لكن لا نريد أن نصبح كالسعودية مثلا. بحجة مراعاة طبيعة المجتمع تحرم النساء من حريات بسيطة مثل حرية التنقل و اللباس. مراعاة طبيعة المجتمع له حدود..

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   ArabObserver

   June 8, 2012

   DM, a good point you make, but I am not sure about the sexual repression excuse here.. if anyone is sexually repressed then it is women in this country and we don’t see women behaving in a such blatant disrespectful way. I would say it has more to do with a culture that has been grown in the past few years and backed up with stupid excuses.

   قاسم، اوافق الرأي، ذلك القانون ٣٠٨ هو قانون جائر يعود بنا الى العصور الحجرية! يجب تغييره فورا!

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   Devil’s Mind

   June 16, 2012

   I don’t think you can separate the two. This view that women are repressed but men are not. The two genders coexist in society and the repression of one gender represses the other. It may need further explanation, but in short, it affects both.

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   سوزان

   December 4, 2012

   من منظور اخلاقي او معياري، لا شيئ يمكن ان يبرر التحرش، فهو مرفوض بالكامل من منظور ديني ومن منظور انساني. لكن رفض التبرير لا ينفي محاولة التفسير. عندما تتحول الجامعات الى معرض للازياء ومنافسة للتعري بدلا من مراكز للبحث والتنافس على طلب العلم فان هناك فئة ستنظر الى هذا “المهرجان” على انه دعوة مفتوحة للتحرش اللفظي وغيره . على حساب التكرار وللتأكيد، انا افسر ولا ابرر. وللعلم التحرش الجنسي الذي يصل احيانا الى مرتبة الاغتصاب وهتك العرض، حتى على الاطفال داخل الاسرة، منتشر اكثر في الغرب، لكننا وللأسف اصبح الاتجاه العام لدينا مقلق.

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