Life has always its ways to teach me that I cannot judge other people without paying a closer look at their situation. As much as we call for tolerance to others regardless of what feature they have we dislike, we always fall into hurting other people for no apparent reason except our own fear and ignorance.
This time the lesson came from Tyra on her show, where she showed me that even judging people for how they smell (which I am guilty of, along with most of other people) can be a big mistake. While we usually jump to conclude that people with bad smell must have a hygine problem, and while this might be true in a lot of cases, it isn’t always true.
She showed two cases of two beautiful women, one had a body odor problem, and the other a breath scent problem. Both tried ever possible mean to get rid of the bad smell in their bodies but always failed. The first lady with the body odor problem, tried taking bath for several times a day, changing her clothes so frequent, and filling herself with perfume, but nothing worked out. She then was diagnosis of having a disease that has no real treatment. Her only way to reduce its simptoms is to adhere to a strict diet of having no protein whatsoever in her food. She quit her job and no locked in her own house so that not to offend people with her scent!
The second lady with breath scent problem washes her mouth 12 times a day. She tried every possible drug in the pharmacy that can be used in cleaning one’s mouth, and even uses a diluted bleach as a drastic measure to remove the bad smell, but nothing helped her! On the show, she was not comfortable of having Tyra sitting next to her so that she wont smell her bad breath. She always uses this technique of keeping a distance between her and people she talks to so that she wont offend them! She even tried to commit suicide at one point.
Smell is just like any other feature we judge people on. It is always the other person’s shortage when he doesn’t meet our expectations. We simplify it to “That person is BAD”, while what is really bad is our ignorance, and how we really hurt people for something out of their hands.
So what if you smelled a bad smell? I know that sometimes it can be so bad where you can’t handle it, but I am sure that there is always a way to handle such situations, and it won’t be that bad if you just tried to get used to it instead of hurting people deeply for them just being diseased.
It is ironic how some diseases get sympathy of people, while others get hatred. It is all lies in how much we know, which would make it wise to try always to take a moment and think before we judge, and try to be more compassionate with each other because you never know when an unknown disease might hit you.