In our process of rejecting anything that looks different, we end up categorizing different kind of people under the same rejected group without even trying to get a clearer idea about the differences among them, or the reason they end up different than what we percieve to be the norm in our society.
One has to be either man or woman. A man should be masculine. A woman should be feminine. A sexual union should happen between a masculine man with a feminine woman. This is the social norm we are used to see in our daily life. We fail to acknowledge that masculinity and femininity is relative. There is a spectrum of degrees of masculinity as well as femininity where it gets us confused.
There are some sex related terms that we have to be aware of in order differenciate:
1. Gender: Male, Female, both
2. Gender Identity: Man, Woman, Transexual
3. Sexual Orientation: Hetreosexual, Bi-sexual, Homosexual
4. Social Role: Masculine, Feminine, in between
The normal scenario would be to have a Male who identifies himself as a Man, being hetreosexual and masculine. Or A female who identifies herself as a woman, being hetreosexual and faminine.
But it isn’t always like this. In life all variations for combining the 4 factors above exists. There are also a lot of variations under each category as of Gender for example. It isn’t just a distinct male, female, both. One can find a range of how much a male is male or female is female according to their sexual organs.
For instance we can find a male failing to acknowledge his identity where he thinks himself to be a woman which makes him a transexual while he is still attracted to women. As of wanting to change his sex to be a lesbian woman.
Some would have the 3 norms while fail to meet one. Like being a male, masculine, man identity, but homosexual, or male, feminine, man identity and hetreosexual.
All of the combinations exist in life. We just happen to accept the only 2 extremes while rejecting all of the other people.