One of the beautiful things that I have learnt in childhood is the sacred of marriage. Having raised in a small home with two loving parents who don’t seize to show affection to each other, and hearing stories of cinderella, snow white and other fairy tales have created the notion of an eternal union between two souls who are meant to be togather.
Now that I have matured, and like a lot of other things that have been ruined by facing reality, reading history books, and getting to know what dictates our behaviour as human beings. I do realize that marriage has never been only about love. It has always been a cooperation between two people to face life.
While I do understand the history of marriage and the needs of our ancestors in order to create such an association that became the core of any human society. I am also aware that marriage have evolved with the evolvement of humans to stand on a basic element to survive which is love.
It has never been in history easier to live alone than our current time. Marriage has lost most of the necessity survival factors. It is now built on our inheritance of social standards and a couple’s love.
As our social standards evolve, we are going to see more and more people choose celibacy as a way of life.
Jordanian conservative society puts a great emphasize on marriage as a sacred entity. Love is growing to an essential factor in the minds of many to keep a marriage successful. Men seems to broke the circle and get partial acceptance of staying celibate, but women are still facing much pressure of society to get married.
Not getting married has become a nightmare for most women in Jordan. The pressure starts in early adulthood as of 18 years old and becomes stronger with each year in a woman’s life. With the other constraints we have on women like keeping them the target of men’s choice where they are not allowed to have an active role in getting a partner, we are making it an impossible situation to many.
And so, with all of that pressure of society, love (which is the main factor to keep a marriage these days) are ignored for the sake of the acceptance of society.
To be continued…